Maybe I’m missing something but isn’t the whole “no makeup selfie thing” just as bad as every other bullshit-judging-women-in-an-effort-to-keep-them-weak-and-controllable practice out there?
(and to be clear, I’m all for being proven wrong. For example, I used to think the whole “nails of the day” trend was super fucking ridiculous and stupid…that is until I heard someone explain it in a different way. I was listening to a podcast and one of the guests talked about how the “nails of the day” was a way for anyone to express their creativity. She highlighted the fact that it was almost completely limitless, that truly anyone could do it, for the small price of a few dollars for a bottle or two of nail polish and a couple of toothpicks, anyone could be an artist. And that changed my mind completely.)
But here’s the thing: isn’t it damaging to our psyche(s) to think that going make-up less is brave and courageous?
Are we, as women, so fucking hideous that exposing our natural selves is this act of noble defiance?
Can’t we just stop judging ourselves, and each other, for a goddamn second, just long enough to feel a bit of love and appreciation for our own flesh.
Isn’t the act of daring to expose ourselves au naturel just another way of trying to one up other women?
Look look look at me, a woman better than all the others, a make-up less woman, I’m basically a fucking hero.
Now, don’t get me wrong. I’m all for posting selfies (if you want) and seeking attention (if you want) but what if we just cut out all the judgmental shaming nonsense? And even more so, what if we stopped rewarding women for the way they conform or don’t conform to whatever beauty standards you subscribe to, and just let them develop into super interesting people.
Because, by the way, even if you could get past the whole look at me I’m so brave for being willing to show you my hideous face without the guise of make-up, can we be honest about what those MUL Selfies are really about?
The no-makeup selfie is just another stab at attention seeking to validate that you, in fact, were born more naturally beautiful than all the other girls. And you know what, THAT WAS FUCKING BLIND LUCK. If you happen to be lucky enough to be drop dead gorgeous without make-up, well congratulations. You managed to be arbitrarily selected by a gene pool of beauty. You didn’t earn it. You don’t deserve it. You didn’t work hard for it. And fyi, it’s value is entirely relative. So what do you say you stop trying to make other women feel incomplete or less than and just be fucking amazing in your own right. Be interesting. Be amazing. Contribute something to the betterment of society. Or at the very least, please, think about how the things you do affect those around you.
I’m not saying you shouldn’t post selfies (go right ahead, go on with your bad self!). I’m not saying that you shouldn’t seek validation (I mean, I would caution against relying on it to feel good as its a fickle fickle thing). I’m not saying that you should or shouldn’t wear make-up. What I am saying is that it’s hard enough being a girl/woman and trying to live up to some bullshit standard (to impress men?) and why on earth would you want to make it harder for your fellow com-madres.
Think of all the amazing things women could be doing if they weren’t so busy feeling badly about themselves?
Disagree? Want to change my mind? Give me your best argument in the comments!